Accidental Hedonism

Also: bby got back.

Sun, 19 May 2013 15:23:22 -0400

Also: bby got back.

Going to the closing night of my flatmate’s silent film...

Sun, 19 May 2013 15:20:00 -0400

Going to the closing night of my flatmate’s silent film festival. Decided on a look I like to call “sexy chav.”

(topknot, full makeup, pink lippie, vest crop top, pencil shirt, nikes, bling)

Reminiscing about the year I lived with a cocaine addict.

Sat, 18 May 2013 12:13:36 -0400

Reminiscing about the year I lived with a cocaine addict.

galo-71: Rolling stones altamont free concert 1969

Sat, 18 May 2013 11:14:56 -0400

galo-71:

Rolling stones altamont free concert 1969

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Sat, 18 May 2013 04:18:50 -0400

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Sat, 18 May 2013 04:18:04 -0400

Last month I donated £5 to the Acid Survivors Trust after seeing a Tumblr post. I just received a...

Thu, 16 May 2013 15:54:00 -0400

Last month I donated £5 to the Acid Survivors Trust after seeing a Tumblr post. I just received a lovely email thanking me for my donation with a note saying they’d update me on their work in 6 months, and I can email “Steven” any time if I’d like to know more/less. I will gladly donate again when I’m feeling flush.

Just today, Sam was complaining that his chosen cancer charity, to which he donates monthly by direct debit, cold calls him once a month to ask for an increased donation (which he has often agreed to do). The next time he receives a call, he is going to tell them that he will increase his donation one last time with the proviso that they never contact him again.

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Tue, 14 May 2013 05:04:02 -0400

fatwasandfanboys: What Should We Call Girl Pain? The starlets...

Sun, 12 May 2013 13:12:09 -0400

fatwasandfanboys:

What Should We Call Girl Pain?

The starlets who posed for the July 2003 Vanity Fair “It’s Totally Raining Teens!” cover, symbolized femininity, success, beauty, talent, youth and perfection. Average girls in the aughts didn’t have the accoutrements to be them, but they could watch them. Even better than watching them, average girls could read their books. The books based on their shows and movies heightened the fantasy. Average girls could be any of these starlets for $3.99 or $4.99. Average girls could be like them while they waited to grow up, not knowing they are already like them.

Five out of nine of the starlets featured on the July 2003 Vanity Fair cover have admitted to struggling with mental illness, making them more than Mary Sues. For Mary-Kate, her pain was called anorexia. For Mandy Moore and Evan Rachel Wood, depression. For Lindsay Lohan, addiction. For Amanda Bynes, “an eating disorder.”

Lindsay Lohan and Amanda Bynes, in particular, labored in Hollywood, as young, vulnerable girls, at the cost of self-love and self-awareness. Money and success couldn’t save them, ultimately, from the reality of illness and suffering. They both represent hurt and injury, and are mocked for it. When people are not cheaply waxing political about them, they are fetishized by gay white men and straight white men alike, mocked in the new lowest form of white male humor: White Girl Jokes.

Men never ask what they should call women’s pain, so they call us crazy. They call us crazy and they laugh at us. The same men who say women aren’t funny obviously do find women funny. They find women funny at the most inappropriate time: when we’re hurting. There is no sympathy, no empathy, for young women under the influence, on the verge of, or currently breaking down. Girl pain is titillating and amusing disaster porn. In Lindsay Lohan and Amanda Bynes’ case, their celebrity eclipses their humanity; they become the “willing victims” of the public abuse of men. Their inner turmoil, a spectacle, is a living punchline reaction gif, making us ask, “Where are their people?”

Lindsay and Amanda, we know, have no people. Amanda Bynes, in a recent tweet, stated, “I don’t speak to my parents anymore.” Lindsay has always been people-less. We learned this, when Lindsay released “Confessions of a Broken Heart (Daughter To Father).” Amy Poehler and Tina Fey tried to be Lindsay’s people, when they staged an intervention in 2005. Their efforts failed.

We watched Britney Spears struggle in the spotlight from 2006-2008, until her parents intervened, like good people should, rescuing their daughter from her very public nightmare, a nightmare exacerbated by men like Sam Lutfi and Perez Hilton. We watched Demi Lovato, during her tour with the Jonas Brothers, punch a back-up dancer. Like Britney, Demi’s support system— her people— intervened. Demi began her treatment at Timberline Knolls. It was there, at Timberline Knolls, that Demi learned what to call her hurt and injury and girl pain: bipolar disorder, bulimia, self-medication, cutting, etc. Her girl pain inspired her last album, Unbroken, the most Lohan-esque song from the album being “For the Love a Daughter.” Britney is older than the girls on the July 2003 Vanity Fair cover, Demi is younger, but their girl pain is the same.

The girls on the Vanity Fair cover all seem to express a vulnerability and winking stoicism. They seem aware of the fact that they were corseted and boxed in— as the clothes, the color and the cover suggest— but not weak. Amanda and Lindsay, both on the sides, are not holding onto any of the other girls. Instead, they grasp the white structure.

What should we call girl pain?

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Sun, 12 May 2013 13:01:15 -0400

hurricanesilver: Natalie Portman photographed for Vogue, 1996

Sat, 11 May 2013 14:24:55 -0400

hurricanesilver:

Natalie Portman photographed for Vogue, 1996

razorshapes: Leanie van der Vyver - Scary Beautiful Artist’s...

Sat, 11 May 2013 12:49:49 -0400

razorshapes:

Leanie van der Vyver - Scary Beautiful

Artist’s statement:

“Humans are Playing God by physically and metaphorically perfecting themselves. Beauty is currently at an all time climax, allowing this project to explore what lies beyond perfection. Scary Beautiful challenges current beauty ideals by inflicting an unexpected new beauty standard.”

chaiandpoetry: lickypickystickyme: If grandmothers around the...

Fri, 10 May 2013 09:15:42 -0400

chaiandpoetry:

lickypickystickyme:

If grandmothers around the world had a rallying cry, it would probably sound something like “You need to eat!”

Photographer Gabriele Galimberti’s grandmother said something similar to him before one of his many globetrotting work trips. To ensure he had at least one good meal, she prepared for him a dish of ravioli before he departed on one of his adventures.

“In that occasion I said to my grandma ‘You know, Grandma, there are many other grandmas around the world and most of them are really good cooks,” Galimberti wrote via email. “I’m going to meet them and ask them to cook for me so I can show you that you don’t have to be worried for me and the food that I will eat!’ This is the way my project was born!”

The project, “Delicatessen With Love”, took Galimberti to 58 countries where he photographed grandmothers with both the ingredients and finished signature dishes.

Galimberti said many of the subjects for the project were selected serendipitously, picked while he was working on a project about couch surfing that explored the global phenomenon of staying in other people’s houses. Since Galimberti never slept in hotels while working on the project, he was able to come into contact with people who introduced him to grandmothers in the area.

Galimberti acted as photographer and stylist during each shoot with the grandmothers, taking a portrait of both the women and the food they made for him.

From top to bottom:

Inara Runtule, 68, Kekava, Latvia. Silke (herring with potatoes and cottage cheese).

Grace Estibero, 82, Mumbai, India. Chicken vindaloo.

Susann Soresen, 81, Homer, Alaska. Moose steak.

Serette Charles, 63, Saint-Jean du Sud, Haiti. Lambi in creole sauce.

The photographer’s grandmother Marisa Batini, 80, Castiglion Fiorentino, Italy. Swiss chard and ricotta Ravioli with meat sauce.

Normita Sambu Arap, 65, Oltepessi (Masaai Mara), Kenya. Mboga and orgali (white corn polenta with vegetables and goat).

Julia Enaigua, 71, La Paz, Bolivia. Queso Humacha (vegetables and fresh cheese soup).

Fifi Makhmer, 62, Cairo, Egypt. Kuoshry (pasta, rice and legumes pie).

Isolina Perez De Vargas, 83, Mendoza, Argentina. Asado criollo (mixed meats barbecue).

Bisrat Melake, 60, Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. Enjera with curry and vegetables.

Sometimes I feel that when you become a grandmother, you automatically begin cooking really good food.

Merida's Makeover Sparks Outrage And Petition

Fri, 10 May 2013 08:17:07 -0400

Merida's Makeover Sparks Outrage And Petition:

miniaturebee:

Merida, “Brave’s” red-headed heroine will be crowned Disney’s 11th princess on May 11. And just in time for her royal induction, the animated character has received a head-to-toe makeover — she’s thinner, her eyes are wider and …

What the effing eff, Disney? Merida is fantastic just the way she is. Cut the crap.

reallyfitandthin: imsuchacrazybitch: jafricanflow: There’s...

Thu, 09 May 2013 12:47:46 -0400

reallyfitandthin:

imsuchacrazybitch:

jafricanflow:

There’s more?!

this is perfect. Everything about this is perfect.

Love this

youhadmeuntiltroll: Don’t you feel 300 pounds lighter? I...

Tue, 07 May 2013 15:38:05 -0400

youhadmeuntiltroll:

Don’t you feel 300 pounds lighter?

I don’t.

mcwheaty: NEVER FORGET

Tue, 07 May 2013 15:36:38 -0400

mcwheaty:

NEVER FORGET

razorshapes: Edvard Munch 1. Self-Portrait with Cigarette...

Tue, 07 May 2013 15:24:27 -0400

razorshapes:

Edvard Munch

1. Self-Portrait with Cigarette (1895)

2. Kiss by the Window (1892)

3. The Girl by the Window (1893)

4. The Sick Child (1896)

a post about the subtitles on my harry potter vcd

Tue, 07 May 2013 08:44:01 -0400

jaymhensley:

so i found my old vcd-copy of harry potter and the chamber of secrets and… i don’t know what’s more entertaining, the movie or the subtitles.

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"I have been waiting all my life to be with you. My heart slams against my ribs when I think of the..."

Tue, 07 May 2013 08:32:47 -0400

“I have been waiting all my life to be with you. My heart slams against my ribs when I think of the slaughtered nights I spent all over the world waiting to feel your touch.”

- Henry Rollins (via loveyourchaos)

I’m thinking about what readings to have at our wedding today and the full text of this quote is even better:

“You are beautiful like demolition. Just the thought of you draws my knuckles white. I don’t need a god. I have you and your beautiful mouth, your hands holding onto me, the nails leaving unfelt wounds, your hot breath on my neck. The taste of your saliva. The darkness is ours. The nights belong to us. Everything we do is secret. Nothing we do will ever be understood; we will be feared and kept well away from. It will be the stuff of legend, endless discussion and limitless inspiration for the brave of heart. It’s you and me in this room, on this floor. Beyond life, beyond morality. We are gleaming animals painted in moonlit sweat glow. Our eyes turn to jewels and everything we do is an example of spontaneous perfection. I have been waiting all my life to be with you. My heart slams against my ribs when I think of the slaughtered nights I spent all over the world waiting to feel your touch. The time I annihilated while I waited like a man doing a life sentence. Now you’re here and everything we touch explodes, bursts into bloom or burns to ash. History atomizes and negates itself with our every shared breath. I need you like life needs life. I want you bad like a natural disaster. You are all I see. You are the only one I want to know.”

(via misfittoys)